Welcome, Baby Sister!

Born October 7th at 2:17am in an all natural drug free labor & delivery. Let’s just say it was fast, intense and so glad it is over and she is here. She is absolutely perfect and we are so blessed and in love with her.

Fun fact: both babies were baked for exactly 39 weeks and 3 days.

6lbs 12oz and 19 3/4 long (exactly the same as her big brother)

Little girl was born with a head full of dark long locks like her momma.

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Welcome to the world baby sister!

10 Survival Tips for a New Mom

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Do not make sleep training decisions in the middle of the night. This is the best piece of advice I got when I was in the trenches with a newborn. You will be tempted one night when your child just won’t fall back asleep and you are beyond exhausted and just want a few hours of continuos sleep and suddenly the idea of sleep training sounds like heaven. Don’t do it. At the same time, don’t try to switch up the sleeping arrangement in the middle of the night whether that is co-sleeping or they are in their own room. The middle of the night is not the time to make these decisions.

It will be hard when you are trying to calm down a fussy baby while your husband snores peacefully next to you. Try not to smother him with your pillow – you’ll need him later.

You cannot spoil a newborn. Does he only sleep in his carseat? Or only in the swing? Or do you need to wear him in order to get him to nap? Whatever it takes, go ahead and do it. You cannot spoil a newborn and you will not set bad sleeping habits at 6, 8 or 12 weeks of age despite what all of the sleep books say and he will be ruined for the rest of his life and never sleep.

Take pictures – with you in them. I have tons of newborn pictures but rarely any with me in them and that’s because I would growl at my husband if he tried to take one of me in those early days. I hadn’t showered, my hair was a mess, no makeup and just looked awful and no way was he going to capture that in a picture. But the truth is, later on you’ll look back through these pictures and wonder where you were. Just take them – your kid will want to see you in his baby pictures. Also invest in newborn photography – your uterus will thank me later.

It’s okay if they are crying. I was so nervous taking my newborn anywhere in fear that he would start crying at the restaurant, grocery store or in the Target aisles and I would draw unwanted attention and glances from people judging me why I couldn’t calm my baby down. This is quite the opposite. For one, newborn cries are so mellow & quiet compared to the tantrum of a 2 year old as you are attempting some form of discipline (trust me on this one) that people barely notice. And chances are 75% of those people have kids and they understand. This also applies to flying with a newborn – just relax, if your baby starts crying it’s okay.

Bring extra clothes with you. You will get puked on, or have a diaper explode on your lap. This will happen – bring extra clothes for yourself and baby.

It will get lonely and repetitive. After the initial excitement of a new baby wears off and friends and relatives go back to their everyday lives, you will be doing this day in and day out for the next few years. It is repetitive: feed, burp, change a diaper, nap, and then rinse and repeat. Except sometimes you don’t get to rinse and it’s just repeat.

Remember to eat. In order to take care of your baby, you need to first take care of yourself. Feeding yourself is the first step then work on getting some rest and then try to set aside some time just for yourself. Even if that means browsing Target by yourself for 30 minutes.

It is a phase, and this too shall pass. There is a light at the end of the tunnel – I promise. Sleep will get easier, so will breastfeeding and they will stop shitting themselves in the middle of the night. It’ll get better and easier just try and make it through today and not worry that this will forever be your life. It’ll change in a week or two – or three.

Hire help. Get a maid.

Stop Googling. Also applies to reading sleep expert books, baby blogs (so guilty here) or following other moms on social media. You’ll oogle over their perfect pictures and spotless houses and moms who have showered and have pretty lipstick on. This is not normal. Also stop googling how to get your 3 week old to sleep through the night while rocking your baby at 3am on your iPhone and be oozing jealously over other moms posting that their babe was sleeping through the night at 6 weeks of age. Wonder where the mom is that has a 9 month old and he is not sleeping through the night? Probably still rocking her baby and is not posting on BabyCenter’s forum.

 

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Linkin’ up with Becky over at Mrs. to Mama on her 52 Weeks of Blogging series

Dear Tired Momma

Dear Tired Momma,

It gets better.

He will sleep eventually and you will get the rest that you are craving so badly right now. Don’t worry about whether he is sleeping in the swing, or in your arms and doubting yourself on how he is getting his rest. He’s only 3 months old and none of this will ruin his sleep pattern later in life. Also, stop googling how to get your newborn to sleep. And put those sleep books down. You’ll only frustrate yourself as you read about other mom’s sharing how their 6 week old is sleeping through the night or reading about the latest sleep training method. It’s just a phase and he will grow and change so much in another few weeks and sleep will come. I know you are tired. I know you are exhausted. I know you are envious of your husband sleeping peacefully away next to you.

 

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People tell you to enjoy and cherish this time, they grow up so fast they say. But all you can focus on is when and how you are going to get some solid rest. Breastfeeding will start to get easier from now on and your confidence will grow as each day passes. Slowly you will build up that milk supply and even start to put some away in your freezer for that rainy day. You will start to feel like yourself again. Slowly, but surely. Those pants will fit again. Allow yourself some time and grace.

 

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In a few more months, this all will get easier and you will start to enjoy it more. I promise. Years from now you will have a loving and independent little person who is the delight of your world and these sleepless nights will become a distant memory. A faded memory. He will learn to sleep through the night and you will get alone time to yourself again. Hang in there momma, it gets better.

Dedicated to myself & this blog post – circa May 19 2011. 


Linkin’ up with Mandy – A Sorta Fairytale’s The Mama Memoirs
 

New Baby Mantra

I’m guest posting today over at The Memoirs of Megan. Below is a little snippet of the post:

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The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow,

But children grow up, as I’ve learned to my sorrow.

So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep!

I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.

~ Ruth Hulbert Hamilton

Oh the sweet new days of having a newborn and a wee little one in the house. If you are a mom, you know what I am talking about, the sheer joy in watching your little one in whatever they are doing. But those early days were tough. No one could have told me just how I would feel holding this new little life in my hands {literally} and this new life was so dependent on me. Not only for the breastmilk that I was producing which was liquid gold and needed to fill his ever so hungry and tiny belly, but for: care, warmth and unwavering love.

As each day passed and my newborn grew one day at a time and I marveled at just how precious he was, and tried to soak everything in, something else was going on too… {to read the rest of the story, head on over to Memoirs of Megan}