Dear Tired Momma,
It gets better.
He will sleep eventually and you will get the rest that you are craving so badly right now. Don’t worry about whether he is sleeping in the swing, or in your arms and doubting yourself on how he is getting his rest. He’s only 3 months old and none of this will ruin his sleep pattern later in life. Also, stop googling how to get your newborn to sleep. And put those sleep books down. You’ll only frustrate yourself as you read about other mom’s sharing how their 6 week old is sleeping through the night or reading about the latest sleep training method. It’s just a phase and he will grow and change so much in another few weeks and sleep will come. I know you are tired. I know you are exhausted. I know you are envious of your husband sleeping peacefully away next to you.
People tell you to enjoy and cherish this time, they grow up so fast they say. But all you can focus on is when and how you are going to get some solid rest. Breastfeeding will start to get easier from now on and your confidence will grow as each day passes. Slowly you will build up that milk supply and even start to put some away in your freezer for that rainy day. You will start to feel like yourself again. Slowly, but surely. Those pants will fit again. Allow yourself some time and grace.
In a few more months, this all will get easier and you will start to enjoy it more. I promise. Years from now you will have a loving and independent little person who is the delight of your world and these sleepless nights will become a distant memory. A faded memory. He will learn to sleep through the night and you will get alone time to yourself again. Hang in there momma, it gets better.
Dedicated to myself & this blog post – circa May 19 2011.